My Husband Dave…His Memory Lives On~Written by Gabby


Memories
Autumn has encouraged me to write this and share the story of my husband Dave. So I am taking her advice and writing about my wonderful husband. This has needed writing for quite some time, honestly. Dave’s memory will live on, I will make sure it does. Dave has so very much been on my mind, more than the usual I mean.
 About my husband, Dave was and will forever be my soulmate. My sweet Dave, and my once in a lifetime love. Sadly, I lost him to cancer eight years ago on May 30th of this year. To me it seems more like eight minutes ago most of the time . They say time heals, but I’m sorry they are wrong because it doesn’t.
Does anyone have the perfect love story? Probably not, because none of us as human being are perfect. I would just have to say ours was as perfect as it gets … For me, anyway.
The Diagnosis 
Dave was diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma (bone marrow cancer) on June 3rd of 1998, the day that started changing my entire world forever.  If anyone is following the blogs here, then you may heard Autumn and I speaking about our Dad, also who passed away from Multiple Myeloma.  It’s not a made up story, it’s real…They passed away exactly 40 days apart from this same evil cancer. Dad being the 40 days after Dave. I also miss my Dad every day of my life, this cancer robbed me of the two most important men in my life. I don’t think Dad would mind if I center the rest of this post on Dave, he is no doubt giving me a thumbs up as I write.
Dave
Well, Dave was so incredibly strong and a very special man in so many ways. He walked into my life when we were both rather young, and he never left. Dave was an educator, a carpenter, a musician…All in one package. His sense of humor was amazing, we laughed quite a lot and often.We brought out the very best in each other, we were just simply meant to be. The musical part of him, well that was just plain magic… A real God given talent.
 Dave had a wonderful voice… He so often sang to me, sometimes I would fall asleep to the sound of his voice. He played drums, guitar and piano. While in bands he was always the drummer, he just was outstanding.
We both shared this love of music so very much. Dave also was the bringer of surprises, sometimes wild flowers, chocolate and other assorted things…Just because. We didn’t limit our gifts to each other for only birthdays (which were only 5 days apart) and holidays. He used to joke about being very old people and still having a blast and rocking it out. Also, he had conjured up a story of how we could exit this life in the same instant. That way neither of us would ever suffer without the other one, we were just too joined that way. Too bad that story didn’t go as planned.
Dave was a romantic, to the very core. To the outside world he just appeared a very happy guy who loved his wife and was clearly loved in return. Dave called me his angel, well I thought he was mine. He had such a gift for making every day we shared an adventure, he really did. One of the last memories of us while Dave was still healthy…Romping around a large amusement park. It was so much fun, we acted like young kids and just lived that day to the fullest. I’m sure we also made tons of people look twice, wondering who were these two crazy people? Racing from ride to ride and laughing loud and long. So many, many memories and that is my blessing because most of them are happy.
Love that transcends time
When he was diagnosed, we joined forces to beat this evil beast and kept fighting hard. Yet, we lost. And I continue going on… because I promised Dave I would. I am not saying it’s easy, I would clearly be lying if I said that. In speaking with Dave’s cousin Emily, she said something quite profound. Her words to me “You and Dave just had and still have such a love, it transcends time.” I think she’s right, we had pure magic together and so much love.
 Each and every day is a challenge, but time goes by very quickly and I will meet up with Dave on the other side. For those of you blessed to have found love, hold on tightly and treat it kindly, please.
Oh, I almost forgot…If you see a star shining very brightly in the sky? Well, that would be Dave.
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6 thoughts on “My Husband Dave…His Memory Lives On~Written by Gabby

  1. This is so well written, Gabs. I know since I was there for it all, this was the worst. You and Dave fought together though, that evil beast that is cancer 😦 I agree, your love transcends time and it’s the strongest ever. I know this was a “must write” it helps to get it out and write about it and it is a beautiful blog!! The best and you and Dave were indeed the best 🙂 TF ❤

    • Thank you so much twinnie, for your encouragement in writing this. Also for the many, many hours you were there for Dave and me both, during this fight. I was so very blessed to have been able to love and be loved by Dave. We had the best and I only wish it could have had a happier ending. I will love and miss him until we meet up on the other side. As the title states…His memory will forever go on, I mean that with all my heart. You know this, of course my sweet Sunshine Sister. Love you and TF ❤

    • Nishan, you are totally one of the kindest people ever. 🙂 This was something I had been wanting to write for quite some time. With Autumn’s encouragement, I finally did it. Dave’s and my story needed to be told, I am so happy and very pleased you took the time to read this.

  2. Very well written Gabby…I’m also Dave./..I am one of Autumns friends and i see that there is inspiration in what you have written..I also lost my wife..but not to cancer to a staph infection which was a shock. My story is different and the end result very different and difficult….. I like your story better. God bless!!

    • Thank you for your kind words Dave and also for reading! I am so sorry about you losing your wife, please accept my deepest and very heartfelt sympathy. Losing our soulmate, well it’s so difficult and so heart breaking. I really feel it’s hard for others to understand, unless they have experienced such a devastating loss. Autumn has spoken of you as one of her friends… All good of course and you are a great friend to her. Please take care and God Bess!

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