Hi From Gabby and Autumn, we want to wish you all a very, very wonderful new year. Thank you so much for the many kind readers, we are so grateful for you all 🙂 Have a safe New Year !!
I know this is so unlike any of my other posts, but I need to write this. Hoping to perhaps get feedback from you kind readers and get these thoughts of mine out there. Autumn and I have a dear friend we grew up with, she has been our friend since we were such very young kids. I, of course will be using her first initial which is L. Well, L was always one spunky, funny and just a smart and also such a brave woman.
She married young and has a daughter by her failed first marriage, raising her as a single Mom much like Autumn did. All was going well, she dated and all but was wise in her choices of men. About 12 years ago she started dating this guy and ended up marrying him. I must honestly say neither Autumn or I cared for him, neither did her family or other friends. My husband Dave was so concerned because he had heard more about the guy, how controlling he was and some other unattractive qualities. Of course none of us could talk her out of the marriage, because in her eyes this man was wonderful and she just fell under his spell.
After the first couple years he was discouraging phone calls and visits from friends and family…I know, it’s the typical thing these types do. But, L is intelligent and she is letting him start to just take over because he needed to be star and center in her life and how is this happening? It’s been a frustration as well as a sad thing, we all miss her company and times together also her old happy self.
Autumn and I have had sporadic phone calls, visits (always at one of our houses) when L can sneak away from Mr. Control. Tonight’s phone call was the worst, L was crying and saying she had to get away from him because she has finally had it and was scared. Of course I offered help, as did Autumn but L is so upset he will hurt her or anyone who tries to help. This is starting to remind me of the movie “Sleeping With the Enemy” about L going on about how she would have to disappear, change her identity because he would never let her go! In this day and age, why has it come to this and why all this fear and threats? I am so angry, so is Autumn…We Twinnies will not let L keep on this way. What makes me angry, too is the police scoff at getting involved and think L can just up and leave him, no problem. That was disheartening, L can’t get an abuse order from the courts either because Mr. Control has never been physically abusive. Yeah, well what about the emotional abuse?!
I am just so beyond upset and heartbroken for L, as is Autumn. She wishes L would do as she herself did in an awful and verbally abusive marriage…Just leave and have no fear. Friends and family will always be there to be supportive and Mr. Control doesn’t get his way! Here’s the question, how do we convince L to leave and just get out and she doesn’t need to go to extremes…How to convince her to just get away before God forbid he does start getting physically abusive, what are the right words for this friend in trouble?
I told L that I was writing this post, and she was anxious what you kind readers would say. Maybe one of you has the magic and right words for her, if so please do share with us Twinnies. It would be so appreciated, perhaps we are too close to the situation and one of you will have the right answer. In the year 2012, why is this type of thing going on? Any thoughts, opinions or ideas…We would love to hear what you kind readers think. Thank you all who took the time to read this, our friend in trouble needs help!
The friends we find along the way
stand by our side, come what may
a forever friend is hard to find
fair and kind
I’m glad you are mine
through all sorts of times
a helping hand is near
a friend so dear
I treasure you, my friend
our caring bond will never end
so through thick and thin
we’ll always win
a loving friendship light
is never out of sight …
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I just wanted to take the time to send out a big Thank You to all you friends and kind readers! It really means so much to me that so many of you cared, left kind comments, prayers and get well wishes. It’s a little rougher going than I thought bouncing back from this surgery, but hopefully I will be feeling 100% in no time! Being slowed down has been so frustrating to me, but I know I need this healing time and have to behave myself.
Autumn, my Mom and other family have all been just wonderful in making sure I do just that, too! Please forgive me for not visiting your blogs, I will try my best to get caught up very soon! 🙂 Hugs to you all, Gabby
Thank you so much to J. for nominating Gabby and I for this award. We are both so honored, since this is an award for writing, it means a lot 🙂
We would like to share this wonderful award with the following talented writers we really appreciate:
Congratulations everyone 🙂 hugs from Autumn and Gabby
This is just too funny not to share, I just heard this one today from a friend. It does concern losing your marbles and someone trying to remedy the situation. All I can say it was a new idea and well intended, too and like nothing I had ever heard anyone doing.
It happened with one of my friend’s co-workers to cheer her up and all since she had been having a rough few weeks. Both at the job and also a tiny bit at home, too…Her teenaged daughter has been acting up just a bit much these days. Long story there and not necessary to tell for this post. I personally never would have thought of this one but my friend’s co-worker presented her with a bag full of marbles. A note was enclosed that said “Just when you think you’re losing them all, pull out my little gift and you will find you really haven’t lost them all!” How wild is that, wonder how the co-worker thought of such a thing…I like it!
Losing all your marbles or just a few here and there is never a good thing after all, is it? Wonder wherever that expression came from anyway…It’s another way of saying losing it, going nuts and slipping a gear or perhaps two. At those sometimes stressful jobs I guess having your own stash of marbles would make you smile and probably laugh. It was just funny how my friend told the story, I hope she doesn’t get any ideas. I really don’t need a bag of marbles, because my life and work isn’t all that stressful. Maybe it is, I could perhaps just not be thinking it is…I am kidding! I would be the first one to admit I was being stressed out or having a rough time of it. But, thankfully not and telling Autumn this story she thought it was rather amusing, too but didn’t think she needed a bag of marbles either.
Well, either the Twinnies are just too laid back or we are in denial…Could it be? I know, it isn’t funny joking about these things. Because of course Autumn and I are both fine. I had to ponder about this marbles story and thought it was fun for sharing. Some of you kind readers maybe could borrow the idea and hand out bags full of marbles! Go ahead if you have a family member, friend or co-worker who is having a bad time, well do give it a whirl and see what happens! If you do, please do tell us how it goes! 😉 🙂
Thank you, Autumn!!!
Reader’s Appreciation Award
I will explain this award exactly as Autumn had read it to be when she read about it.
As she wrote, awards are like gifts – they are meant to be a blessing.
1. List six nominations.
2. Link the Award Image back to the one who presented it to you. But if you can’t manage it, please do not fuss and fret.
The “rules” are not legally binding which means, if you’re not happy to be nominated, please have some mercy and grace for me. (Autumn didn’t do compliance checks and neither will I!) As she said, if you do not want the award please don’t feel like you MUST accept. This is supposed to be fun, too.
Nominations: Much too difficult, I invite any of the kind readers to accept the nomination!
Mrs. Sparkly’s Ten Commandment Award
The “Mrs. Sparkly’s Ten Commandments Award” has to do with a woman of the same name, known for being very elegant and having high expectations, and who is committed to maintaining integrity, good manners and behavior, as well as a rich sense of humor. Thank you, Autumn, for considering me for this high honored award! Now, I must answer 10 Questions “honestly” about myself, as part of my acceptance (rules) of this award.
1. Describe yourself in seven words. Kind, compassionate, cute, sensitive, genuine, a twin
2. What keeps you up at night. Thinking way too much
3. Whom would you like to be? Only myself, I like being me
4. What are you wearing now? Jeans and a sweater
5. What scares you? Mean people who have no heart
6. What are the best and worst things about blogging? The best: Meeting wonderful people, that become friends /The worst: Worrying if my post will be well received
7. What was the last website you looked at? Amazon
8. If you could change one thing about yourself what would it be? Nothing, I like being me.
9. Slankets, yes or no? yes, I love them
10. Tell us something about the person who tagged you. That would be my amazing, beautiful and ever so talented twin sister Autumn! TF <3!
The Creative Chaos Award
Firstly: Thank the person who gave you the Award.
Secondly: Take your best shot at the 3 tasks listed below.
Thirdly: Nominate 5 people who recently followed your blog.
First Task: Three weird things I do: 1. I have music playing almost 100% of the time and sing a lot 2. I sleep with night lights all over the place 3. I will not leave my house without earrings in my ears
Second Task: You must tell why you look at the “glass half full” scenario and ask “what? No coffee?”
Third Task: You find yourself in a desolate place when your car breaks down. You have no cellphone service, no Wal-Mart, and only a candy bar for food. It is 150 miles to the closest town. What color are your under pants and why? I would be rescued quickly, I would contact Autumn by our twin ESP! The other question, kind of personal and why would anybody ask such a question?